Christian dating an atheist
Can an atheist and a believer build a strong, lasting marriage? Her family loves me and everyone else says we're the perfect couple.
There's just one catch: she's a strong Christian, but I don't believe in God at all.
Dear “I’m falling in love with an atheist,” I am so glad you wrote. A Christian has the spirit of Christ living inside of them!
Many times they don't give any real consideration to the long-range ramifications of that decision.
An atheist, on the other hand, denies that God even exists. Well, years ago, the apostle Paul wrote to the Christians in Corinth, urging them not to enter into any kind of a close partnership with an unbeliever. King Solomon made this mistake, and we’re told in 1 Kings 11:4 that, Let me be clear about this, though.
An atheist is a God-hater, just as you and I were until God graciously opened our “eyes” to our need to be forgiven and cleansed of our sin, to be reconciled to our Creator, and to be given an “alien” righteousness so we could live with a holy God forever. After telling them not to be “unequally yoked with unbelievers” (picture an ox and a donkey trying to plow a straight row together . If you choose God over this man, God will not love you any more than He already does. If you truly trust in Christ Jesus as both your Savior and your Lord, you are His 100% dearly loved child.
Those are important ingredients when it comes to building a lasting relationship and laying a firm foundation for a successful marriage. It's an arrangement within which spouses have to learn how to cooperate, work together, and hammer out mutually satisfactory compromises.
But in a situation like yours it's still important to think things through on a deeper level. Because in the final analysis the challenge you're facing is bigger than a mere difference of "religious opinion." It's not just a question of your willingness to "tolerate" someone else's beliefs. And when worldviews collide, the results can be devastating for a marital relationship. They have to do this on an almost daily basis, and in response to a wide variety of practical problems. As an atheist, you assume that there is no higher authority. As far as you're concerned, it's just a question of "what works." But your Christian girlfriend has a very different perspective.
It will fail if you are not honest with each other, and lack respect for one another—spiritually or otherwise. Each partner brings the best and the worst parts of themselves to their marriage, and the success or failure of their union depends on how they embrace the good and the bad.