Dating a woman with trust issues
So, I’m going to break in here right at the start: this is a good thing to recognize in yourself.
Realizing that you’re holding on to negative, self-limiting beliefs is an important step in overcoming them. Physically attractive, tall and fit, non smoker, social drinker, intelligent (masters qualified), undertaking a career that corresponds with my education level, and cultured, with a strong interest in many of the arts, along with active competition in sport (i’m a cyclist) to a high amateur level.
The problem, however, is that sometimes you don’t realize that you’re focusing on the . I am also a sociable person, not autistic (to my knowledge) and am well liked by friends of both genders.
Quick tip: listing not being autistic as a plus is not going to help or win you many friends.
People all over the autism spectrum have relationships which run the gamut, from friends-with-benefits arrangements to long and happy marriages.
Despite all of this, I have only ever had one 5-month relationship when I was 16. I’ve found it very very difficult to get dates at a regular frequency, so in that time I’ve been on only 20 dates.
And despite spending the last 11 years trying to find a girlfriend, I haven’t had a single one, and – to add insult to injury – I’m still a virgin! Of those, I felt the vast majority went well – I do have social skills after all – and I expressed interest in a second date for 17 or 18 of the women…
We just know “Yes, I’m attracted to that person” or “No, I’m not”. An amazing actor can pull this off for a little while. It affects how you talk to people, the way you perceive the world and how you interact with it. And like Binary Sunset, this is a theme that’s going to be recurring throughout your letter.
You weren’t required to see them again; you didn’t dig them and that was the end of that.
If you were to get a second date with someone and realize that you weren’t actually into them and decide not to see them again, then you would be dictating terms there, too. You can take all of five seconds to read through Buzzfeed listicles about women’s dating woes to realize that they’re dealing with the same bullshit you are.
If you mean “women don’t make the first move,” then you’re missing a critical factor: a lot of guys react to women who flaunt or invert gender roles.
When women make the first move on the wrong guy, one of two things happens. Or it may mean that you make a good first impression, but they just weren’t attracted to you, sexually or physically. – The instant gratification culture, a lack of recognition that it takes some time to get to know someone, and develop chemistry, and that men need more than one date to achieve this.
Just me forever alone, and nothing I can do about it. And, once again: this isn’t an example of female privilege.