Dating someone with genital herpes
I held off on sex for as long as I could, but it got more and more difficult.One day, my new beau reassured me, "I'm disease-free, I just got tested.I knew enough about sexually transmitted diseases to know that I had herpes, but I didn't know exactly what to do.As I sat in the college health center waiting to see a doctor, I watched my very short-lived social life drift by.I had always insisted on using condoms, which can reduce the risk of transmission.My selling point, however, was telling him that approximately one in four people has herpes and, statistically speaking, he undoubtedly had slept with someone who had herpes. He thought about that for a minute and then realized he might not know.
I told him that to my knowledge I had never spread the virus to anyone else, and that I was very careful.
Then, while surfing the Web for information on the latest herpes medication, I stumbled across a web site for people with herpes.
There are dozens of web sites that provide online support and information for people with herpes.
Many feature chat rooms, bulletin boards, treatment information, personal ads, and social groups around the world.
A friend of mine had recently married a guy she met on the Web -- proving that not every Internet date is a psycho -- so I gave it a try.
Many people are unaware they have it, because they don't experience symptoms or because they attribute the symptoms to something else. Years later, I've come to the realization that he knew he had herpes, and that is the reason he stopped in the midst of our sexual adventure.